Talking to my friends, it seems we all have very different ideas of what our perfect man would be, or is. None of us seem to agree. I find it hard to believe that all guys want the exact same thing. Even if my goal was to please guys, why should that mean I have to fit this very narrow standard of beauty? At the moment, I’m not trying to attract a guy. I would have no idea what to do with one right now, it’s just not a good time for me. But one day I will want to date. My mom has a saying, “you only need one”. What this means to me, is that’s it’s pointless to try to be everything for everyone. Because the only needing one goes for guys as well. What if that theoretical guy is out there, and he’s looking for someone just like me, but he can’t find me because I’ve grown out my hair, died it, gotten a boob job, and gave up my weird interests?
Even if you don’t believe in soulmates (which I don’t think I do), this concept still stands. You can’t be compatible with someone you’ve changed yourself for. The pressure put on girls to be “everything” is counterproductive.